What is attachment and why is it so important? Simple definition: Attachment is a relationship. July 7, 2008, Zoie was so sick when we first met her that she immediately attached to us for survival. All her needs were being taken care of and by the time we left Ethiopia, she was thriving. We are a very affectionate family and Zoie fit right in with hugs, kisses and joy. The only thing missing for me was the special time I remember having when I fed and rocked my babies at night. It’s an intense bonding experience. From the beginning, Zoie would allow me hold her, rock her, and feed her, but there was something missing. I would hold her tight to me and she would slightly push me away.